Overcoming imposter syndrome

Hey there dreamer, welcome aboard!

I have imposter syndrome, and you might too. Wait! Before you freak out, it is not as life-threatening as it sounds. Yes, I'm running with the assumption that you don't know what it is. I may be completely wrong. Either way, you might have it too, and not know about it. Worry not fellow dreamer, I'm here to rescue you.

If you know a little about imposter syndrome, you will know that playing the hero is also a type of imposter syndrome. As you might probably guess, I identify with this type. To be honest, I identify with more than half of the five types of imposter syndromes. I came to the conclusion that I'm not alone, there are thousands (if not billions) of people who do too.

But what the hell is this imposter syndrome 'disease'?

Imposter syndrome is a psychological habit that causes a person to feel like their abilities, gifts and talents are not good enough. Basically, it is the silver lining between believing things to not be hard enough by making them feel and look easy and actually discrediting the value those things have in one's life. It feels like you're being too humble or nonchalant about something that holds so much value. It also can feel like your success and achievements happened by luck because you don't feel you worked hard enough for them.

There are many ways one could explain this psychological pattern. What I find most intriguing is that more than half of the world's population have experienced imposter syndrome with or without the realization.

Alright, but how many people have you heard talk about their feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness? Most people, like myself, do not like to be perceived as weak, incapable, or inadequate. They would rather deal with their problems alone than be vulnerable. You might be one of those people or might know people like that. The consequences of these psychological issues are uncomfortable because they grow you in ways that you might not be ready for.

Personally, I think it is vital to learn our patterns in order to unlearn, celebrate ourselves, heal, and in the end grow. Here are the five common types of imposter syndromes:

1) The Perfectionist:

This type of imposter generally feels like they can achieve anything. The trick for them is that they set the bar for their goals too high and too soon. The downside is this leaves them feeling like they failed to achieve their goals and can never get there. They also tend to focus their attention on what they're doing wrong instead of what they are doing right.

2) The hero:

Often times they feel like they have to help, fix, and rescue all those in distress around them, forgetting their own goals. This leaves them feeling burnt out. These imposters feel they have to always know how to juggle every aspect of their lives all at once and if they fail on even one of those aspects, they psychologically feel worthless. They often feel like they have to show themselves and everyone else around them that they can achieve in all aspects of their lives.

3) The Natural Genius:

This imposter contradicts the qualities that most types of imposters carry. This type may feel worthless when they don't get things right the first time they try because they are so used to every ability, achievement, and skill coming easy for them.

4) The Soloist:

This imposter does not like to ask for help because they feel like no one else can help them as they could themselves. When they have to ask for help, they feel a deep shame and a feeling of general failure.

5) The Expert:

They always look for more achievements and qualifications because they feel like they will never be enough and know enough to feel worthy. They often measure their worth based on how much they know about and can do. The lack of skill and knowledge I'm any subject could cause them to feel worthless.

To sum it up, these five types of imposters help identify the root of what you might be experiencing based on which type you significantly relate to. In other words, you could use the type of imposter syndrome you relate to to help yourself change your thinking habits.

For example, if you resonate with the soloist, your thinking pattern whenever you think of asking for help would be along the line of feeling a strong push towards the opposite side of that, which is not to ask for help. Perhaps you feel that you try to erase the idea of a song for help as soon as it arises because deep down, you know that help would go a long way but feel that doing it on your own will prove your worth to everyone, including yourself.

The truth is, no matter which type of imposter you identify with, you can use the limiting beliefs that imposter has to help identify your subconscious thought patterns to change them for the better.

This research I've done has not only helped me in the present but it's allowed me to understand my past actions that have lead me to this point. I haven't mastered unlearning these patterns but I'm on my way to healing. With this glance into imposter syndrome, I hope you will be too.

K bye xx